So about three weeks ago I got a call from a guy out of the blue.
He called himself Jeff Magic and said that he was a Long Island
Dating Coach and wanted to work together to help some of the guys who
come to the events. For those of you not from Long
Island, I have received very positive feedback about Dating Coach Art,
see ad above, but have not personally used his services.)
As with anyone else I would personally recommend, I needed to meet with
him and make sure he was on the level.
Last night Jeff Magic spent about three hours at my apartment. He
explained his own personal story about how he went from being a regular
guy who could not meet women, to being an expert on understanding how to meet
and attract women.
I am skeptical by nature and needed to see things for myself. Some of
the techniques he talked about, I just could not see working on attractive
women. They were completely counter intuitive.
It was Sunday night and we were not out in the "field", so how could I really
see if what this guy was saying was true? The answer?? Online personal
ads.
I have found online personal ads extremely frustrating from a guys point of
view. For every 25 emails I would send, I would maybe get back one or
two responses. My theory for many years has been that women are
bombarded with messages from so many guys, that your email is just another in
the crowd that looses its potency because of the shear volume of responses a
woman must sift through. Most of the guys I have spoken with from
WeekendDating events had very similar experiences.
Well Jeff Magic mentioned that he had a 90% success rate with messages he sent
women (meaning that they at least responded) and that he would get 4 or 5 new
messages a day from women. (What was going through my mind was that this
guy is full of sh**).
So we first logged on to check out my own profile. It had just been
redone based on feedback from a very attractive female friend and was not
getting good results. Jeff Magic picked it apart, actually he ripped it
to shreds.
We then logged on and checked out his profile. Some of the same women I
had emailed but did not respond, were in his inbox. I read
his profile (extremely long), which went entirely against what my female
friend had suggested.
We then read some of the sent messages to the women (some of the same
techniques he mentioned above that I felt were completely counterintuitive) ,
and sure enough the guy had responses. While online, he received 2 new
messages and 1 instant message request.
So what is going through my mind is What the F**. What ever happened to
just being yourself?? A woman should like you for who you are and you
shouldn't have to learn a science about meeting and attracting women.
Well I am now convinced that you can still be yourself, but show that more
interesting side of yourself to make a good first impression.
Just like there are personal trainers at the gym, the field of personal
trainers for dating aka Dating Coaches will continue to expand.