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Hi, I am Jay. I started WeekendDating.com back on Valentines Day of 2003. I still show up at events with a box of name tags and match cards. If you searched for speed dating events near me over 40, you are probably looking for something real, not theory or recycled dating advice.
That is what we do. Real singles, ages verified at the door, and a structured evening so nothing feels awkward or forced. Just genuine conversations with people in your age group who showed up for the same reason you did.
View Upcoming 40 Plus Events
Why Try Speed Dating At 40 Plus
Dating apps are exhausting. Too much swiping, too many half finished chats, and sometimes people are not who they say they are. When you meet in person, you know right away if there is chemistry. That is the beauty of it.
At our 40 plus speed dating events, you will find:
- Verified 40 plus age groups. We check IDs.
- Balanced groups of men and women.
- A host guiding the flow so nothing drags or feels uncomfortable.
- Events in NYC, Long Island, Westchester, New Jersey and Stamford.
Quick Answers For 40 Plus Speed Dating
Where do you run over 40 speed dating events?
We host 40 plus events across NYC, Long Island, Westchester, New Jersey and Stamford.
How old are people at these events?
Most groups include ages 40s and 50s, sometimes early 60s depending on the event.
How many people will I meet?
You will usually meet between 8 and 15 people depending on turnout.
How soon do matches come?
Matches are emailed the next morning and can include mutual matches and one way matches.
What Happens At The Event
You will check in, grab a name tag, meet the host, and rotate through short conversations. Each mini date lasts about 4 to 6 minutes. You mark yes or no privately, and if it is mutual, you get match info the next morning.
We also include one way matches so you can reconnect if you choose.
Who Attends
Teachers, business owners, nurses, tech professionals, people with kids, people without kids, dog lovers, fitness people. The common thread is that they are 40 plus and tired of wasting time online. They want a real connection.
Why It Works For This Age Group
Over 40, your time matters. These events are efficient, a whole night of real introductions instead of weeks of dead end texting. And since everyone is in similar life stages, conversations are easier and more natural.
Upcoming 40 Plus Events
We run these events often, and they sell out quickly because we keep numbers balanced.
Scroll down to see upcoming events
or
view all events here
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Common Questions
I am shy. Will this feel uncomfortable?
Most people feel that way at first. After a round or two, the nerves fade. The host keeps everything smooth and easy.
What should I wear?
Smart casual. The same thing you would wear to a nice dinner out.
What if I do not get a match?
It happens, but most people get a couple. Either way, you had a night of real conversations instead of more swiping.
Do you really check IDs?
Yes. It keeps the 40 plus age range honest and consistent.
Ready To Try It?
I would love to see you at one of these events. Either I will be hosting or one of my team members will be running the show. We keep it structured, simple and fun.
Reserve Your Spot For The Next Over 40 Event
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| Women: | 40+ |
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| Men: | 40+ |
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Manhattan
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After Work Social ages 40+
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Fri
May
8
2026
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After Work Social ages 40+
Men 40+,
Women 40+
Manhattan
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| Women: | 30-48 |
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| Men: | 45-58 |
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Manhattan
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NYC Speed dating
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Fri
May
8
2026
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NYC Speed dating
Men 45-58,
Women 30-48
Manhattan
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| Women: | 30s & 40s |
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| Men: | 30s & 40s |
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Manhattan
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30s 40s Rooftop party
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Sat
May
9
2026
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30s 40s Rooftop party
Men 30s & 40s,
Women 30s & 40s
Manhattan
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| Women: | 30-45 |
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| Men: | 30-45 |
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Manhattan
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Jewish (JSC) Spring Picnic
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Sun
May
17
2026
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Jewish (JSC) Spring Picnic
Men 30-45,
Women 30-45
Manhattan
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| Women: | 40-56 |
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| Men: | 43-57 |
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Manhattan
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NYC Speed Dating
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Fri
May
22
2026
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NYC Speed Dating
Men 43-57,
Women 40-56
Manhattan
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| Women: | 28-45 |
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| Men: | 28-45 |
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Manhattan
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Blue Collar Speed Dating
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Fri
May
22
2026
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Blue Collar Speed Dating
Men 28-45,
Women 28-45
Manhattan
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| Women: | 30s & 40s |
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| Men: | 30s & 40s |
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Manhattan
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Speed Dating NYC
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Sat
May
30
2026
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Speed Dating NYC
Men 30s & 40s,
Women 30s & 40s
Manhattan
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| Women: | 20s & 30s |
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| Men: | 20s & 30s |
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Manhattan
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Audiobook lovers speed dating
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Sat
May
30
2026
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Audiobook lovers speed dating
Men 20s & 30s,
Women 20s & 30s
Manhattan
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| Women: | 25-41 |
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| Men: | 25-41 |
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Manhattan
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JEWISH- NYC Speed dating
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Sat
May
30
2026
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JEWISH- NYC Speed dating
Men 25-41,
Women 25-41
Manhattan
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| Women: | - All |
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| Men: | - All |
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Queens
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Bayside Queens Single Mingle
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Fri
Jun
5
2026
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Bayside Queens Single Mingle
Men - All,
Women - All
Queens
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| Women: | 49-66 |
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| Men: | 58-72 |
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Manhattan
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NYC Speed Dating
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Fri
Jun
12
2026
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NYC Speed Dating
Men 58-72,
Women 49-66
Manhattan
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| Women: | 40-56 |
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| Men: | 43-57 |
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Manhattan
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NYC Speed Dating
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Fri
Jun
26
2026
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NYC Speed Dating
Men 43-57,
Women 40-56
Manhattan
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| Women: | 27-43 |
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| Men: | 27-43 |
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Nassau
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Speed Dating Long Island
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Sat
May
9
2026
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Speed Dating Long Island
Men 27-43,
Women 27-43
Nassau
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| Women: | 50-63 |
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| Men: | 53-65 |
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Suffolk
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Long Island Speed Dating
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Sat
May
9
2026
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Long Island Speed Dating
Men 53-65,
Women 50-63
Suffolk
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| Women: | 37-54 |
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| Men: | 42-57 |
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Nassau
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LI Speed Dating
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Sat
May
16
2026
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LI Speed Dating
Men 42-57,
Women 37-54
Nassau
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| Women: | - All |
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| Men: | - All |
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Nassau
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Pickleball Singles Social/Lessons
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Sun
May
17
2026
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Pickleball Singles Social/Lessons
Men - All,
Women - All
Nassau
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| Women: | - All |
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| Men: | - All |
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Nassau
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Pickleball hangout Observe
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Sun
May
17
2026
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Pickleball hangout Observe
Men - All,
Women - All
Nassau
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| Women: | 56-70 |
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| Men: | 58-78 |
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Nassau
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LI Speed Dating
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Fri
May
22
2026
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LI Speed Dating
Men 58-78,
Women 56-70
Nassau
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| Women: | 35-49 |
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| Men: | 38-52 |
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Nassau
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Long Island Speed Dating
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Sat
May
23
2026
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Long Island Speed Dating
Men 38-52,
Women 35-49
Nassau
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| Women: | Late 30s, 40s, 50s |
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| Men: | Late 30s, 40s, 50s |
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Nassau
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Elevated Singles Mixer
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Thu
May
28
2026
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Elevated Singles Mixer
Men Late 30s, 40s, 50s,
Women Late 30s, 40s, 50s
Nassau
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| Women: | 45-58 |
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| Men: | 48-61 |
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Nassau
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Long Island Speed Dating
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Fri
May
29
2026
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Long Island Speed Dating
Men 48-61,
Women 45-58
Nassau
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| Women: | 50-63 |
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| Men: | 53-65 |
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Nassau
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Long Island Speed Dating
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Sat
Jun
6
2026
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Long Island Speed Dating
Men 53-65,
Women 50-63
Nassau
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| Women: | 27-43 |
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| Men: | 27-43 |
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Nassau
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Speed Dating Long Island
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Sat
Jun
6
2026
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Speed Dating Long Island
Men 27-43,
Women 27-43
Nassau
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| Women: | 50s |
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| Men: | 50s |
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Manhattan
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Jewish Singles NY Secret Admirer
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Thu
Jun
11
2026
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Jewish Singles NY Secret Admirer
Men 50s,
Women 50s
Manhattan
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| Women: | 30s & 40s |
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| Men: | 30s & 40s |
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Manhattan
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Jewish Singles NY Secret Admirer
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Thu
Jun
11
2026
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Jewish Singles NY Secret Admirer
Men 30s & 40s,
Women 30s & 40s
Manhattan
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| Women: | 37-55 |
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| Men: | 42-57 |
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Nassau
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LI Speed Dating
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Sat
Jun
13
2026
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LI Speed Dating
Men 42-57,
Women 37-55
Nassau
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| Women: | 35-49 |
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| Men: | 38-52 |
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Nassau
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Long Island Speed Dating
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Sat
Jun
20
2026
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Long Island Speed Dating
Men 38-52,
Women 35-49
Nassau
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| Women: | 25+ |
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| Men: | 25+ |
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Manhattan
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Gay Speed Dating NYC
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Fri
Jun
26
2026
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Gay Speed Dating NYC
Men 25+,
Women 25+
Manhattan
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| Women: | - All |
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| Men: | - All |
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Suffolk
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Beautiful the Musical (Babylon)
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Sun
Jul
12
2026
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Beautiful the Musical (Babylon)
Men - All,
Women - All
Suffolk
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| Women: | 40-54 |
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| Men: | 43-57 |
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Other
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Speed Dating Westchester
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Wed
May
13
2026
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Speed Dating Westchester
Men 43-57,
Women 40-54
Other
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| Women: | 50-65 |
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| Men: | 56-69 |
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Other
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Speed Dating Westchester
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Sat
May
23
2026
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Speed Dating Westchester
Men 56-69,
Women 50-65
Other
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| Women: | 30s & 40s |
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| Men: | 30s & 40s |
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Connecticut
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Speed Dating CT Ages 30s & 40s
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Sat
May
30
2026
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Speed Dating CT Ages 30s & 40s
Men 30s & 40s,
Women 30s & 40s
Connecticut
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| Women: | 30s & 40s |
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| Men: | 30s & 40s |
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Online
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Online Speed Dating
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Tue
May
12
2026
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Online Speed Dating
Men 30s & 40s,
Women 30s & 40s
Online
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| Women: | 37-54 |
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| Men: | 42-57 |
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Online
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Online Speed Dating
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Tue
May
19
2026
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Online Speed Dating
Men 42-57,
Women 37-54
Online
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| Women: | 30s & 40s |
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| Men: | 30s & 40 |
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Online
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Jewish Virtual Speed Dating
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Tue
Jun
2
2026
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Jewish Virtual Speed Dating
Men 30s & 40,
Women 30s & 40s
Online
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| Women: | 30s & 40s |
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| Men: | 30s & 40s |
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Online
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Online Speed Dating
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Tue
Jun
9
2026
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Online Speed Dating
Men 30s & 40s,
Women 30s & 40s
Online
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| Women: | 37-54 |
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| Men: | 42-57 |
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Online
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Online Speed Dating
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Tue
Jun
23
2026
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Online Speed Dating
Men 42-57,
Women 37-54
Online
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